Check out this story and tell me where you think the guy went wrong:
“I matched with this woman on Tinder. After talking for 2 days, I asked her out. She said yes. We went on our 1st date. It went really well. We talked and walked for 3 hours.
At the end of the date, I asked her if she would like to go to a concert in the coming days, because she mentioned she likes going to concerts, she said yes. I was afraid I put her on the spot, but I liked her, and wanted her to know I wanted to see her again.
After the date, she was the one who texted me saying she enjoyed her time with me. Next morning she sent me a good morning message, and wished me a nice day. Other than that, I was always the one who sent good morning messages.
We kept talking, and some days we did face time. Things seemed to go well. Until one day, when we did face time, I asked her out again with a solid plan. Her reaction wasn't convincing, but she agreed to going out again.
The next day, she sent me a message that she needed to cancel our date, but would be happy to go out on another day.
Here's the interesting part: I went to the concert I invited her to alone, and voila she was there holding hands and touching the back of another guy. I don't think she saw me. I was standing behind them, on a distance.”
So, what went wrong?
First things first – the initial date of going on a three hour walk with a girl is just dumb. Have drinks at a nice spot. Make the environment sexy. Show her you have some taste. Act like a man who has his life together. Going for a three-hour walk is something teenagers do.
Here’s a line I didn’t like:
“Next morning she sent me a good morning message, and wished me a nice day. Other than that I was always the one who sent good morning messages. “
Exactly how many good morning messages and regular texts was he sending this girl? And who’s the one initiating the facetiming? Sounds like it was all him.
Women need space. They hate clingy men.
The other big issue here is how obvious he was that he liked her.
Finally - why is he going to a concert alone?
Despite all these GM messages and facetiming, this girl is not his girlfriend. He got desperate and emotionally attached way too fast.
You want to have 2-3 girls you can hit up to go out with at all times if plans with another girl fall through.
I bet if she saw him at the concert with another girl, her interest in him would skyrocket.
Women want what they can’t have sometimes - or what they deem as being in high demand.
Next time - show less desperation and less interest. Be about your purpose and have more women in your life you can engage with to avoid becoming clingy.
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